I've heard a lot of people say that Facebook is a very bad place to hang out.
You're constantly looking at your friends' lives, and their happiness and their perfect children (and in my case, already... some of my friends have grandchildren). Their vacations and their tans and their snorkels and swim fins.
Your life sucks in comparison. It's just the truth.
I've always tried to not be braggy about accomplishments or things my kids are doing. I've also tried to not be overtly whiny when things are in the shit.
Essentially, I try to be the class clown and make jokes or drop in song quotes. I talk to inanimate objects (ie: "Dear Spring... I know what you're doing...") My life does kind of suck. But I'm not going to stand out in the middle of the neighborhood and be the town crier about these things. I'm not looking for pity, I'm not needing someone to call the wahmbulance (one of my favorite words ever).
The one thing that I'm having a hard time with lately is my seeming multitude of friends slagging their bosses, their jobs, their careers. I know, you get to about 50 and you start to have that just-past-mid-life crisis and complain and whine about stuff.
But it's really irritating me right now because I don't HAVE a job. I want a job. I want any job. I need a paycheck. I am starting to panic.
When a friend posts that a co-worker was a dick and said this that and the other thing and they want to quit their job over this, I have to shake my head. When another friend posts that they don't get the recognition or appreciation they feel they deserve, I feel bad for them for a minute but then realize they probably don't look at their paycheck when it comes in every week (or every other week) because of direct deposit, so they don't know how good they have it at the end of the day.
So please do me a favor. Shut up already? Cash your paycheck, pay your bills, make your car payment, go away for a long weekend because you can afford a cabin rental in the Adirondacks. Be thankful you have a paycheck. Or find another job if you think you can find another job. Just ... go back to being happy about your life or something, anything.
And take those pictures of you and your kid snorkling or kissing a dolphin, or the amazing 4 star meal you just ate. I'm here with my box of cheez-its for dinner, but appreciate the little victories you share more than some bitching and whining.