Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Das Wereweinerhundgeisterhaus!

"Ich lebt in einem wereweinerhundgeisterhaus mit einer vogelscheuche und einem hexenmeister."
I live in a were-weinerdog ghost house with a scarecrow and a warlock.
-Doug, at dinner, speaking his own very special brand of German


I took today off because I am beat. Exhausted. And feeling that "I'm going to throw up or pass out" kind of feeling. So being home, curled up with many dogs and the Steelers Fleece is the best place to be. I updated the Boy Scout Troop website (we have a huge fundraiser coming up at the end of October) and before I slip off into sleepies I thought I ought to write an update.

Our exchange student is spectacular.

I took the day off on Friday to clean house and have decided I want a cleaning lady. Yikes. But I digress. Jess and I picked her up on Friday evening, and brought her home where Doug had just arrived and where Geoff was waiting for us. We decided to go out to eat. The girl she is actually doing her exchange with (Raina) came with us (long story, Raina couldn't host her at all, so a 2nd family was asked to host her and then they backed out... if you read my last entry, that's how we ended up hosting. It wasn't Raina's fault at all, and she feels horrible about the whole situation, but we're not mad at her or anything. She's a gem and we love her).

We had a lot of fun and unlike 2 years ago when Jess didn't talk much in German and our exchange student was shy, the languages were flying. Raina and Jess were speaking German. Melanie was speaking English, and Geoff was speaking some crazy Geoff language of Spanish, German and English as he so desperately tried to fit in. It was entertaining and sad at the same time. I had to pull him aside and ask him to scale it back, not compete, and just be himself. He had decided since she was from Germany she wouldn't know any English so he had better at least pretend to speak her language. I understood his efforts, and thought them very kind. He's figured out she speaks perfectly good English, and has finally calmed down. Doug and I spoke "Denglish" as Raina calls it.... English mixed with some Deutsch words. Lots of laughs were flying.

salisbury 24We kept Melanie awake until 9pm when she finally collapsed into bed.

Saturday afternoon we went out to Salisbury Beach. The dogs needed a good run, and swim, and she wanted to see the ocean from somewhere other than a plane. She's been to places like Spain and whatnot but wanted to see our ocean. So we threw sticks and looked at Newburyport and watched a ton of people with their horses and I took more pictures of strangers and horses than I've ever taken in my life. They were so pretty on the beach.

Funny, the last time we were up at Salisbury Beach with a German Exchange student we saw exactly the same thing... now that I think of it. All the photos are here, if you'd like to see.

Saturday night Jess and I went to a Bat Mitzvah party and Melanie spent the evening with Raina's family. I think Melanie would have enjoyed the Bat Mitzvah party because they played all of her favorite music and there were Rebels there who would have embraced her. I know the mom of the Bat Mitzvah gal would have welcomed her to the party no problem... but I didn't want to overwhelm her with 10,000 new strangers after being here for less than 24 hours. Upon reflection, I think she would have done just fine, splendid, wonderfully. Ah well. I took a million pictures of Rebels and others with glow stick necklaces and chaos... the photos are here if you want to see. A couple particularly nice ones are there of our Jess.

whitefield day 18Sunday we took her to our church, and it was a special and different service. Our pastor dresses up as one of the most famous of the Great Awakening church fathers and he does a truncated version of one of his 3 hour sermons. I'm sure it was impossible for her to follow because I was lost and confused... but Rob (our pastor) was all dressed up with the wig and everything so a good time was had by all.

Afterwards, we toured the church from top to bottom, and she got to enjoy the view from the steeple. It was a very nice time.

The work week started and our German Guest went to the high school for the first time -- she said that she had a great time, and that everyone was really friendly. We watched "House" in English and she liked it. She didn't know Hugh Laurie was that guy... yeah. That guy. I was happy to finally see the season premiere, which I hadn't had a chance to catch yet. In fact, now that I think of it I missed the last two episodes of last season, so ... hmmm. Gotta go back and dig into some Hulu or Fox online and catch up.

Melanie has a great sense of humor. The other night we were watching a news report about the German elections, and they kept showing footage of revelers at München's Hofbrauhäus and I said "Look at all these stereotypes! Look how the American media portrays Germans!!! Like a bunch of drunken jerks!" She responded "Oh but that IS how Germans are all the time!" Which I thought was adorable. Monday night we sat around the dining table while Doug looked up words in Google Translator and tried to say them, and it made her laugh so hard. She would correct him, he'd try and say it... and so on and so on, much to our great amusement. At one point he was yelling about Bird Poop and Scarecrows (vogelscheuche) because his "scheuche" was coming out like Scheiße (oh I do love the German double S thingie!). I told her basically I would put money on the fact there wasn't another family in our school district with an exchange student at their house from Germany sitting around the dining table talking about wereweinerhundgeister and vogelscheuche. Guaranteed.

This weekend, the girls are off to NYC in an adventurous trip with Germans and American's mixing it up. Two 2 years ago when The Germans were here, you'll recall that on the same NYC weekend we went to someone's wedding with our German exchange student (GES, remember me calling her that for short? lol). And then we spent two days enjoying Manhattan, which you can read about here and here, if you are so bored at work you can't think of anything else to do.

Melanie is with us through the 15th, when we put her on an airplane and send her away. I already feel like I'll miss her. Three weeks is such a short time. Wow. But ... today she is in Boston doing the Museum of Science. Then to NYC with my daughter. Then they'll have a couple field trips during the week, including one to the town where I work and I may try and see them for a few minutes while they are there. I also think I will take her to the second annual Salem Zombie Walk, which takes place on October 10th (she said it sounds like fun, and I think she honestly means it). We may go with Pastor Rob out on his boat out to see whales on the 10th too, if that works out. Not sure yet... Have to wait and see.

Doug's parents are coming up to nearby Manchester NH for some sort of convention for some glass stuff that they're into. So we'll have a visit with them in late October... I wish they were actually coming to visit while Melanie is here.

Anyway, I so desperately need a nap right now. This has taken me longer to write than I thought because I got two phone calls and a house guest in the middle of it. I'm sure there will be more adventures coming up soon.

Thursday, September 24, 2009

An Unexpected but not Unwanted Guest

The phone rang while we were watching some one of the 4pm football games on Sunday afternoon. Probably the Steelers, but I cannot recall. It was Jess' German teacher and she was not at all happy.

"I am not sure what to do, but I need to ask you a favor..." she started. She is a lovely and sweet woman, and my heart started pounding wondering what could possibly be wrong. "I need a host family for one of the students coming here on Friday, and I'm wondering if you can take her in." She told me the story of how the original exchange family cannot host her, and the substitute exchange family deicided that they just can't take her.

"Sure. We'll take her."

I looked at Doug, who was lounging upon the couch watching his football and he rolled his eyes, but he knew in his heart of hearts that I was right speaking for us. "OH!" said Jess' teacher, "Thank you!!! I don't know what I would do without you!"

It isn't about her praising me, it was more about me thinking "What if this was my kid, and she was on her way to some Foreign Country, and her host family flaked." What would I hope for ... someone to step up.

So our German arrives tomorrow afternoon. Jess didn't sign up for the exchange program so we're not prepared for this. She's not planning on going to Germany in June, this is actually someone "else's" student, which is all fine and good. Some of you may remember 2 years ago right now when we had Anna here as our "German." She was fantastic. We went to my sister's wedding and had a hands down blast.... and Jess went to Germany and stayed with her family in June 2008.

Melanie will come to us, and we'll surrogate host her, I guess. But already I've had a wonderful time emailing with her. And I can't believe in 24 hours she'll be sleeping upstairs.

I do feel a little self-satisfied. I'm so willing to just fling open my doors and let whomever in... it's just too bad my house is a fucking DISASTER and needs to be top to bottom scrubbed.

I took a vacation day tomorrow.... so the scrubbing/vacuuming can take place. And it will. dude. It totally will.

So not much else to say except I plan on a German living with us starting tomorrow. And it is freaking me out. I should be cleaning... but oh man. German. Don't mention the war!

While she is here, she will be going to NYC with the full group (Americans and Germans) and spending 2 days heading out to Niagara Falls with just the Germans. They'll come down to Salem, and I may try and tag along with them when they do.


The weekend of October 16th, I'm going "home." My High School Marching band is having a reunion. I'm going to stay with my sister, and I'm kind of super looking forward to it because Linda (my baby sister) and I have never been in Band at the same time together... so this will be the first and only time I get to march with her. I wasn't going to go do this trip, but when I realized this fact, I had to go.

I loved high school marching band, the fun field shows and challenging programs. And Linda and I were never in band at the same time, so this will be an amazing time.

If I can remember how to play my flute or saxaphone.

There may be some awesome people there and I'm almost out of control excited about seeing people that might be there. More to come on this in the coming weeks, I'm sure.

But wow. High school. Marching band. Woot!


Anyway -- not much else going on. A lot of Scout stuff keeping me busy and the German thing, and ... wow. That's about it kids. Hope all is well with all y'all. Watch this space as usual.

Sunday, September 13, 2009

Fill-in-the-Blank Day(s)

It was a busy weekend, one where I managed to pull an event together by the skin of my teeth.

Does your town have "Insert your town name Days"?

No?

Well, we do. We have "Insert your town name Days" around here. This is a community event that just about every town up around here in New England has. The "days" consist of a PTA cake walk, and ice cream social at a local church and another church does their pancake breakfast. Usually there is soccer sign up or basketball sign up, or a raffle for the local historical society, a band, and a bunch of other shenanigans.

Small towns have these "days" which are usually one "day" but let's not argue about that. Suffice to say, the Boy Scouts play a major role in whatever the town "Days" is. Our town is no different. Our Troop does a big assed barbecue. And I volunteered back in March to coordinate it. It also turns out to be our Troop's big fundraiser for the year. Last year, our "days" was canceled because of rain. this year, not so much.

We got food donated to us (if you live anywhere near Haverhill MA, I will extol the virtues of Haverhill Beef Company to you, and the fine folk at Fantini Bakery also helped out). Our Scouts and parents step up to man the grill, the cash register and do all kinds of good works.

We watched the forecast for weeks... it was perfect perfect perfect and then all of a sudden it was supposed to be pouring out on Saturday.

Absolutely POURING.

They had a rain date scheduled, but there was one problem. They didn't TELL anyone about the rain date, except the vendors. So the info that went home with the elementary school students, the announcement in the paper... not one mention was made of the rain date. Which was stupid. And it pissed me off. Because why HAVE a slated rain date and then not tell anyone about it. Dumbasses. But. Whatever. So they opted to go ahead and do it. Have it go on and ... move everything INSIDE (at the fire station) and run it indoors.

One problem -- you can't grill INSIDE the fire station.

Yet again, Troop 87 would be representin' in the pouring rain. it isn't a Troop 87 event if it isn't raining. I think we've all gotten used to this by now.

The night before at 11pm I'm on the phone with parents, people squabbling... "I can't believe they're not just doing it on Sunday!!!"

"I know, I know... but I'm not in charge so..."

"This is so stupid!"

"I know, I know... I fully agree!"

"It's gonna be BEAUTIFUL on Sunday!!! What the hell! Don't they know no one is going to come out on Sunday!!!!"

"I know," (insert sound of my head hitting the dining table), "I agree," (bang, bang bang).

Groveland days 3We were up at 7am, rushing to get ready, tying all the loose ends up. Veteran parents who have done this thing before were essential to me, keeping me from losing my mind. We got everything set up, and at 10am started up the grill. I borrowed a wok from my friend Gary and we stir fried the onions and peppers for sausages... we did just what we needed and then when we needed more we did more. The boys were psyched about the giant wok. I've never seen boys this psyched about ... a cooking device.

It poured. It so poured. It was horrible. Everyone else was inside, but we were outside, and people eventually came out to see us. And our food started selling. And we were cranking out the goods. Sausages! with Peppers and Onions! Burgers! with or without cheese! Hot dogs!

My concern was that we'd recoup our costs of about $500. We did. We doubled that. We ended up clearing about $600.
And at the end of the day, that's not bad.

The boys were in good spirits, and that made everything much better. Our senior patrol leader is so much fun, I adore him. We had a great time, and he kept everyone laughing (including me). I had a great time, and while it would have been much nicer to do it on a nice, sunny day -- like today -- we had a great time. I love these guys. And it was time well spent.


Today I slept until 1pm. I guess I was exhausted. After the whole summer of Shakespeare touring, and then this event on top of things... sleep was well earned.


Major league football kicked off this past Thursday but today was the first Big Day of game play. And you all know that I love me some football, we watched quite a bit of it today (once we woke up) and then later in the day we went to get Jess' senior pictures taken. My friend Peter is a great photographer, and I didn't want a 3 hour studio shoot with hundreds of dollars of photos and prints and whatnot, so I asked him to do her photos. We wanted to do it at Winnekenni Castle, but there was a wedding there tonight. So we ended up at a playground, which was Jess' idea.

She didn't even WANT senior portraits done, but I told her that her parents and grandparents and Auntie would want them, so we had to do something. So the playground was fun, informal, but professional. Peter took a ton of photos and will send me the best to pick from. One will be yearbook worthy... and some will be just fun and silly and happy. And in the end, that's all I wanted. I love my girl. So if she wants portraits at a playground... that's all right by me.

On that note, I'm officially very tired. Putting up photos into Flickr and going to bed. Good night friends.

Saturday, September 05, 2009

Epistles of Love

Pictured here is a little scene from "Twelfth Night."

Three of the funniest people to "hide" behind a box tree. Sir Andrew in front, Sir Toby with the hat on and Fabian. They are watching Malvolio as he reads an "Epistle of Love" from the Lady Olivia. He thinks it is written to him, and confesses Olivia's love for him. The three musketeers above know it is a prank, as he reads " be not afraid of greatness: some are born great, some achieve greatness and some have greatness thrust upon 'em." Later he'll make his entrance with yellow stockings crossed gartered, much to Olivia's disgust, and he'll "thrust" greatness upon her. With hilarious results.

"Twelfth Night" was an amazing experience, and unlike each of the other two tours I really felt connected with this cast, not just my daughter and a couple of people. I had a wonderful time working on this tour, loved the production, loved the locations where we were booked to play, loved the directors, loved the comedy that they produced that just seemed to get better and better each time. We did ten shows, and I would have liked to have seen it five more times. It was that good. I loved it all, and going through my photos, which are all here in a collection, I relive it over and over and it brings me such joy.

I miss the kids. And I miss what I was doing. Keri always tells the kids that after the experience is over, and she has told us parents too, that the kids will sometimes get really depressed after the run is over. Well, I didn't think that it would hit me like this, but I have hit that dark place myself.

After this wonderful experience, I think I'm officially bummed in ways I haven't been in years.

I miss them, watching them, talking to them, spending time with them, and helping them and their directors do what they needed to do. I feel like what I was doing was full of such incredible meaning. I was able to do so much and experience the artistic side of me that is so lacking anymore. While the experience was fantastic, it also showed me that I'm just not happy where I am vocationally. I'm really rather unhappy. And I have been for a long time.

I don't know what I'm doing with and in my life at the moment, and it just really has hit me hard these past few weeks. I tried getting my masters in education, and realized that my starting salary would be 20k less than what I'm earning now. There is no real incentive for me to go do that. So, I'm semi-floundering right now. But I will get over it. It'll be okay.


Halibut 4Can I tell you why this picture is funny?

We did a show at Halibut Point State Park, and upon arrival a bunch of the kids saw this sign and thought it was hysterical.

The sign is telling readers "Danger! This is a Quarry." But with no punctuation, it can come off as the name of the quarry, like Danger Quarry... instead of Danger, Quarry! or Danger! Quarry!

So everyone laughed hard, and we sang a James Bond kind of song about Danger Quarry! Filled with Danger! And some boulders! And some rocks! Danger Quarry!

Doug said "where on earth would you ever find a mess of kids who know enough about punctuation to find "Danger Quarry" this amusing?" And we laughed our asses off for hours. Everyone wanted their picture taken with the sign. It became part of the play. During the scene where Malvolio finds his letter and Toby, Andrew and Fabian hide from him, Fabian hid behind it with excellent comedic results. It was leaned against, became almost like a prop or set piece. During his sword fight with Viola, our Sir Andrew did this great "Grrrrr, Rawrrrrrr" to be all tough sounding. And on this night he said "Grrrrrr, Rawrrrrrr, DANGER QUARRY! RAWWWRRRRR!" and the audience died laughing, the cast almost lost it... it was amazing.

I want to make him a t-shirt that says "Danger Quarry" on it. I want everyone to have one. I want one.


Twelfth Night - Museum Marketplace Salem MAWe had a wonderful run with a few weather related problems.

Hurricane Bill (aptly named for Shakespeare perhaps?) was threatening us for days. Luckily what it ended up doing was force storms out to our West to STAY to our West. On Saturday, I stood in downtown Salem outside of the Hawthorne Hotel before our show at the Salem Common, and looked at a wall of clouds, the backside of a massive thunderstorm that was up over Peabody. Lightning raged all up and down the back of the cloud walls, and I begged it to just STAY over there.

And it did.

We didn't get so lucky on the Sunday night of the run.

We were in East India Pedestrian mall outside the Peabody Essex Museum doing our show, which in and of itself has a great story that I'll tell next. A huge crowd had gathered, and we used the fountain interior as our stage. It was wonderful to have so many people there. The cast had done some serious street teaming during the day on Saturday and the hour before this show. We were thrilled to have a great audience for this unique little spot.

Our cast used the islands inside the fountain wonderfully. It was fantastic and the show was running smoothly. Three scenes left in the play, it started to rain, so we opted to go inside the Museum Place Mall.

It was after 6:30 at night... and we figured it would be no problem. No one was really in there, it's kind of like the place you'd film a post-apocalyptic zombie movie or something because it seriously has very little human traffic in it. Our audience quickly and quietly relocated to inside the mall, and the show started again. Everything was going smoothly, fantastically. Sir Andrew made his dramatic and very loud entrance yelling "FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, A SURGEON!!!" and the audience busted out laughing.

Suddenly, the security guard came around the corner. He rushed over to Zoe, our stage manager, and I cold see him gesturing at her. So I ran over to intercede.

"You people can't be in here!. You don't have permission to be in here!"

I apologized, told him it was POURING out and we only had three more scenes. Five more minutes! We didn't think it would be a problem.

"You don't have permission. I'm calling my boss."

"Okay, sir, please understand, it is POURING out and we're almost done. Seriously there is only about five minutes left in the play."

"And then, I'm calling the cops."

Oh seriously. You have got to be joking.

I looked out the window -- noticed that the rain had stopped and looked at our director who was watching me carefully. I nodded at her and mouthed, "Get them outside now."

She stood up and halted the scene. She gently told the audience we were going back outside, and people complied. I was impressed again by their quickness and efficiency. We barely lost an audience member, they wanted to see what the outcome of this silly story was going to be. While the audience and cast reassembled outdoors in the fountain, I went over to the security booth to talk to the dude. He was on the phone with his boss and I asked to talk to him. I apologized profusely, and said that basically we thought we didn't have an option with five minutes left.

"Yeah, but you should have asked. If you asked, we could have made arrangements."

So it sounded to me like it was all about asking the permission and he was more hurt than mad.

"I'm sorry, if I knew it was going to start raining, you better believe I would have asked you. I'm sorry. Friends?" I stuck my hand out.

"Next time just ask me first and we'll be all set."

Okay champ. We shook hands and declared no harm, no foul.

I went outside knowing he didn't call the cops and watched the kids finish their show. In the distance, I cold hear police sirens and Chris, HBK and McKey looked over at me, somewhat wide-eyed and terrified. McKey got up and came over to me, he had directed the July show and was up from NY to see this show. He was all ready to be tough, arms crossed, chin jutted out. "Do I need to diffuse the situation with the cops when they show up?"

Twelfth Night - Museum Marketplace Salem MA"They won't be showing up. I diffused the situation with Mr. Security guy with love and words so we're all set."

We stood together and watched the end of the play. Pretty much the minute the play ended, I managed to get a full cast shot inside the fountain, and then the rain started up again. And it would not let up again for 20 hours.

Good thing we had the next day off.


The funny story about the fountain is that I had arranged with the city of Salem to make sure that the fountain would not be running the day of the performance. I had gone to a zoning board meeting, and gotten a street performer's license (awesome) and told them my plan was to stage the show inside the fountains on the island, and that it was okay if water was inside the fountain but that the waterfall would be too loud for the kids to compete with. They assured me that the fountain would be off.

We got there, and the fountain was running. D'oh. It being a Sunday evening I knew there was no chance I would be able to get ahold of anyone to turn the silly thing off. The kids were rehearsing and working on projecting over the fountain. I saw a city truck coming up the pedestrian mall to take out the garbage. I trotted over to ask the guys if they had keys or access to keys to turn the fountain off. They called their boss, and they told me he'd be over as soon as he could. Their boss, Tom, was there in ten minutes, on his day off even, with five keyrings with about 100 keys each on them.

"I turned this off on Friday," he told me. "Someone decided to turn it back on, and unfortunately, I think they still have the key ring with the key that opens this lock!" He told me that he got an email on Friday letting him know to make sure it was off for the weekend.

I thanked him for coming out on his day off. He was irritated with whomever decided to turn the fountain back on and shook his head. He apologized repeatedly, and I told him it was okay, the kids would project as loud as they could. The fountain looked awesome, so that was nice.

He tried every Master Lock key on the keyrings and none of them would open the lock. "I'm going back to the shop for a bolt cutter, I'll be right back."

"Oh! You don't have to do that!" I didn't want him to have to replace the lock for us. "I have a million master locks, it's no big deal."

So he came back, and used the bolt cutters to cut the lock, turned the fountain off. I tried to pay him for the lock and he wouldn't take the money. So he and the two guys who called him in all got hugs from me. They wished me luck with Hurricane Bill, and one said "Hey, Bill Shakespeare, that's funny!" Even the city workers got the humor in the hurricane name.

Bill didn't turn out to be a huge factor but Tropical Storm Danny did. We enjoyed the whole rest of the week with no bad weather, until the one show that I wanted to do outdoors was rained out. Saturday, we were scheduled to do the show out on a little island in Marblehead Harbor. The island is accessible at low tide only, visitors walk out when the water is low and enjoy this little island. Well, the rain prevented us from doing that. Luckily, the UU church in Marblehead was willing to host us, and we had our final show indoors, with epic and amazing results. I watched most of it instead of taking photos, it was really a fun performance where the kids let it all out. I was horribly disappointed to not have the show on the little island. I think that a lot of people thought I was crazy, or they thought it was awesome. My cell phone rang off the hook with people wondering where the show was. One woman told me she was really looking forward to the island. I guess that it was a weird and wonderful choice that some folks in town thought was awesome. I think a nice crowd would have come out. Oh well.

At least we had a nice contingency plan in place, and in the end it all worked out great.


Several friends come out to see the kids in their plays this year, and it really made me happy. Beth and the Dane came to both shows, Elizabeth was at Rockport, as were Gregg, Karry and Abby. A bunch of the Boy Scout troop parents came to the castle. Jess' theatre teacher was even there. I wish she had seen Hamlet to see Jess, Nick and Byron -- but at least she came to see Twelfth Night, and she really loved it.

They all told me how wonderful the production was, how incredible the acting, the presentation... and that was so awesome. I've been telling everyone how great they are, and hearing from them afterwards that it isn't just my imagination was so awesome and made me so happy.


Doug started a new job this week. He had been working a 4 day work week at a Boston Hospital and augmented his income with 2 days a week Home Health Care. A six day work week made for no fun Doug, but he liked the two days a week doing Home Health. He couldn't find a good full time home health gig, so keeping the hospital medicaid/medicare paperwork gig was important. He started looking at the beginning of the summer, and got a good job for a five day a week position at another Boston hospital, which he can actually get to by taking the commuter rail. It pays about 15k more than what he was earning at the other hospital, which makes sense for the extra day... and it is half the work load of what he had before. Hopefully he'll be pretty happy with this job.

Jess is very happy. She is a senior this year, and after her first day she was smiling and excited about her course work. "For the first time in my life, I'm taking classes I want to take." She had to drop AP German because everyone else in the class dropped the course, leaving her as the only participant on the roles so the school wouldn't run a course for one student. Can't say as I blame them. She only had half the summer work done, so she was semi-relieved but a little pissed because she was the only one who did ANY of the summer work. All of the students are now in Honors German now. She is still going to try and prepare for the AP test anyway, because taking it could help her a lot when it comes to college admissions especially if she gets a 4 or even the elusive 5 for a score. She is starting to look at colleges, and surprisingly it doesn't break my heart. The one problem is she doesn't FEEL LIKE going to SEE the colleges. She thinks that she can just pick a college based on their website. I disagree. I think a campus visit is mandatory. So far she's been to UMass Amherst, is interested in University of Southern Maine, University of Maine Orono (way too expensive. 30k a year for out of state students???? what???) and University of Pittsburgh. So we're going to have to convince her that actual site visits are worthwhile. Wish me luck.

Geoff started middle school, which is really the new normal for all of us. He is up at 5:45 every day getting ready for school. I so wish I had that kind of gumption. He is showered, dressed and eating breakfast by the time I roll my fat ass downstairs for my first cup of coffee. I opted to drive both of them to school this year, as our high school and middle school are right next door to one another, and we're also driving MM, our next door neighbor who Jess has been friends with since kindergarten.

I drop them off at 7am. My plan was to drop them off and go straight to work but since Doug has been in my way every morning my plan of being 100% ready to go has been thwarted, so I've come home to get ready. We all need to figure out our new schedules and get in synch together.

The great thing about Geoff is he's happy too, and I have not had a phone call from the school yet. Yet. I know there will be a call eventually, but for now, he's happy and I'm happy and that's good. Cross your fingers that it stays this way.

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Reunioning

August 12, 2009 - Reunioning

This past weekend I had the distinct honor and pleasure of going to a family reunion, on my dad's side of the family. A few years back, we did the same thing as some of you may recall. Since that time, my cousin Deb managed to find a few more relatives, mostly cousins, who had semi-vanished from our lives. Thanks to the magical powers of facebook, we've managed to reacquaint and get to know one another as adults. So another reunion was put into the works, and we gathered at Deb's house for another bash.

Doug couldn't get the Saturday off of work after spending a week at Boy Scout camp with Geoff, so he opted to not join us instead of joining us late. 5 hours away is not exactly the kind of thing you go to after you get out of work at 5pm.

Geoff had been at my parents' for the week, so we met him down there (Jess and I, that is). The party was in full swing at our arrival, with cousins from everywhere chilling in the backyard. Geoff spent about 11 hours in the pool. Sometimes I think that I'd like a pool because it would be something for him to do... and then I think to myself, naah, he'd never use it if we actually HAD one.

My aunt Margie was there, and my aunt Esther. Since the last reunion, my uncle Buddy had passed away, so this basically leaves my dad and his two sisters, with another uncle out in the world somewhere. I have no idea where he is or what he is up to.

reunion9Chief among the newly rediscovered cousins was Bill and Teri (who goes by Bethy these days). We hadn't seen one another since probably 1980, I'm guessing. They are a little older than I am, and both live far away.

When their dad died back in 1992, Deb tried desperately to find them, to no avail. It made us all really sad to know that he was going to be buried without his kids there... We'd gotten to know each other again on the facebook, and it is always so cute to log into FB in the morning and see "what's up cousins?" as someone's status. It always makes me smile. We take over one anothers statuses once in a while, with my cousin Joe and Deb's daughter Marlene usually the ringleaders of silly. We rag on each other, have long running back and forth conversations that rage through the evening that only we find amusing.

It was fantastic to see folks in person. My younger cousins are nuts, and it was a riot watching them. I bartended for them and polluted them quite well. So much so that my cousin Joe, the big talker, crawled into his truck to go to bed at 9:30pm, which incurred the wrath of everyone. For punishment, his truck got Toilet Papered. He got his revenge the next night when he shrink wrapped Ronnie's car.

jenssiepatti7On Sunday before we headed home, my sister and I had a late lunch with friends from High School who I haven't seen in about 20 years. We got our kids together and just took over a diner. Like NY pizza, diner food in NY is something we don't have around here. The closest diner food is in Connecticut, around Hartford and south. Massachusetts really needs some shiny metal greek diner action.

But I digress.

We had a blast catching up and laughing about the 25th reunion they just attended that I passed on. Who was an asshole, still. What girl changed so much that you couldn't recognize her for anything. Who threw up on the dance floor because she can't roll like she used to. Heh.

It was so nice to feel like no time has passed between us even though a lot really has. I loved their kids, and we just had a splendid time together. I cannot wait to see them again, truly and honestly.

I could have used an extra day, because I really wanted to head back to my hometown and just look around and maybe catch up with a friend or two still there. Hopefully 10 or 20 years won't pass to the next opportunity. My two cousins went with my dad to go to the cemetery where their dad is buried, and I was glad that they got to do that, after all these years.

Anyway. I'm home this morning. Geoff has no program to go to this week, so I opted to stay here with him until about 1pm, and then head into my office and work until about 6. Doug should be at a reasonable time today. He is giving notice on his job. He got an offer from another rehab hospital in Boston, and the pay is a lot more, and it is a 5 day a week position, so he won't have to do per diem speech for home health care. It's kind of a relief because he's been working 6 days a week since April. So there is much rejoicing there. We have a huge hole in our fence that no matter how often we block it Brodie dog keeps getting out. So I want to wait as late as possible, take them out to pee, and then Geoff doesn't have to take them out at all until daddy gets home. She's escaped four times this week... so some major fence mending has to take place as soon as possible.


And the Shakespeare update is that all the tour dates are booked, and now we start the publicity media blitz. I need to print out a bunch of posters and see if Jess can go hang them up around Salem while I work. If you're interested in the shows, they are as follows:

Twelfth Night

August 21 - 5pm. Salem Athenaeum Library, Salem MA
August 22 - 4pm, The Publick Theatre at Christian Herter Park, opening for the Orfeo Group, Boston, MA
August 23 - 5pm, Salem Museum Place Mall (the fountain area by the Peabody Essex Museum at the end of the East India Mall)
August 24 - no shows
August 25 - 1pm, Salem Willows Park Shell
August 25 - 5pm, Endicott Park, Danvers MA
August 26 - 1pm, Nichols Village, Groveland MA
August 26 - 5pm, Winnekenni Castle, Haverhill MA
August 27 - 5pm, Warren Park, Wellesley MA
August 28 - 5pm, Halibut Point State Reservation, Rockport MA
August 29 - 12 noon, Crowninshield Island, Marblehead MA

Now, a couple of these are special. Boston readers please note that the 4pm show on August 22 is an opening act for the Orfeo Group's FINAL show of "The Complete Works of William Shakespeare (abridged)" and it is one quality act, I tell you what. Funny stuff. Our show is free. Bring a picnic. Orfeo follows at 6:45 and you can spend a wonderful evening in a BEAUTIFUL park enjoying Shakespeare. The Marblehead show is also special, because it is on an island in Marblehead Harbor, and you can only access the island at low tide by walking out... proper footwear recommended. Sunscreen too. It is a unique little spot, and the owners of the island, The Trustees of the Reservations, are excited for the show. I'm really looking forward to the Rockport show -- the park director there is completely psyched to have Shakespeare at Halibut Point. When I called to ask if they wanted to host us, he was thrilled "I've always wanted to do Shakespeare up here but didn't know who to reach out to!" he told me. So very cool and exciting.

I got turned down a lot of places this time around in my search for locations. Towns and venues want money. They want to charge a fee. Or, they want to book the show in March, and get it on their town calendars, and not do a kind of drive-by quick and dirty insertion of a program into their parks program. I did meet some cool people in some cool towns, Brookline, Wakefield, and others, who really like the idea and want to work on it for 2010. That was cool but it didn't do me any good for THIS tour! But it will make next year so much easier. Having a series of towns who want to host us, and lining them all up in advance, will be great. I can't wait to bring the kids back to the Boston Harbor Islands next year. I can't wait for next year.

Anyway. About time for me to pack this in and go to work. More later.

Tuesday, August 04, 2009

Done And On to the Next One

Hey. Summer finally showed up and the heat is on. We had a very below average, cold, horrible and rainy July, and August has started up with the 90s right off the bat. I'm sort of dreading the Twelfth Night tour because of the heat. I'm sure it will be okay though. What's 10 shows? The kids are tough. The new kids will hopefully love it, and ... your humble tour director is looking forward to what may come.

Jess got cast as Maria (found out it is pronounced "mah-REYE-ah" much to our confusion and the fact I've only ever READ the play and there is no written out "this is how it is pronounced" bit) and she's happy with her role. She read for Olivia, and I think she would have been actually well cast as her. I would have liked to have seen it. But she's got the comedian role again and she does that quite well. I think this is her last play with this group because she graduates in June of next year, and she had a blast with Hamlet, and is really looking forward to Twelfth Night. I'm so glad she's happy. I just wish she'd catch up with her summer work.

Geoff and Doug went to Boy Scout Camp, and they returned alive, tan and rested. Doug said Geoff did a pretty good job and was one of the least troublesome and messy kids there. He got 2 out of 3 of the merit badges he set out to do. He didn't quite get all of the tasks done. He has to score a certain amount of points on a certain amount of arrows, and he didn't get ... close. At the beginning of the week he couldn't hit the side of the planet. By Friday he was getting 4 of 5 arrows ON the target. He even hit one bullseye. Quite by accident I'm sure. But there was a lot of celebrating afterwards.

He's at my parents' now, spending some quality time with them. I have two more weeks of summer for him to be entertained through and am not sure what to do with him. Hmmm.

This weekend, Jess and I are going to Long Island to attend my family reunion. The last one was in 2005, and we took a whole huge family vacation out to Pennsylvania after doing the reunion. My parents are bringing Geoff down to Long Island on Thursday and then Jess and I will join on Saturday. Doug can't get out of work, having just taken the week off. So we'll go without him. I'm looking forward to my cousin coming out from Oregon, haven't seen him since we were young teens. Thanks to the power of Facebook, my cousin Debbie found him and now we're one big happy family again. Grownups, but still kids in a lot of ways.

I'm looking forward to Debbie's new tiki bar, and Geoff is looking forward to the pool.

Anyway. Not much else to report. I'm so boring lately, aren't I?

Sunday, July 26, 2009

King Byron, and the Clown

The Hamlet Tour started a week ago, and has eaten my life. Not to mention last weekend my sister and parents came up to see Geoff do "The Winter's Tale," which turned out to be amazing in ways that I will write about later because I'm still processing my thoughts about him and his experience.

Hamlet @ The Orfeo TheatreTomorrow is our last day of the run. Final two shows. I will not be scheduling 12 gigs for "Twelfth Night" in August.

Heck, I would rather just schedule 8... fewer shows, better audiences, methinks. Anyway.

This experience has been rough on the kids, and me, and our director, and the parents. And while it is a relief that it is coming to an end, there are some amazing memories already and we're not done yet. We had one show where 1000 people were there, and we had another show where there were mostly parents and 5 "strangers," who were friends of Hamlet's Grandma.

Lots of ups and downs, lots of chaos, lots of amazing amazingness. The kids are growing more and more comfortable in their roles as the run goes on. Our gravedigger scene is usually very very funny, but today's show took it to another level that leaked into Ophelia's death scene and had audience members laughing hysterically when they should be crying for Laertes and our poor Hamlet was watching me trying not to laugh and she almost lost it. Good times, gooooood times.

We have two Hamlets switching back and forth, and a 90 minute cut and a 2.5 hour cut. We did the 90 minute cut in locations that required it -- performing with the Orfeo Group Theatre, Arlington Massachusetts' Shakespeare in the Park festival, and at the Park where we did Romeo and Juliet last year.

Tomorrow we do the show twice, both are 2.5 hour shows, so each Hamlet gets to go off with his or her big role in big fashion.

Jess had two friends from school who joined our merry wanderers this year, Byron and Nick. They were cast in rather huge roles for kids who had no experience in the company, but they both had plenty of experience in theatre at High School and other programs... Byron is Claudius the usurper uncle aunt mother father king, and Nick is Laertes, with a heavy Revere Massachusetts accent. Both of them have been so incredibly good in their roles that I cannot imagine anyone better for them, and I am so glad that they joined up.

Our last show is on Jess, Byron and Nick's home turf, and I am truly hoping that their friends and family turn out en force with a vengeance and we have a bazillion people on hand.

If you're in Boston, southern NH, wherever ... our last two shows are Haverhill and Andover and details/directions are here. Maybe try and come?

The weather played unfairly with us on Tuesday and Thursday, but today mother nature made up for her meanness by giving us an amazing day on the Boston Harbor Islands. A huge crowd, enthusiastic, amazing... and we had a great day. Today wins. Today we came in first at awesome and having fun. I'm still smiling from how awesome the day was... amazing.

Unlike last year, I am not going to do a full write up of each show. Instead, I will share these gems.

At Arlington, I spent a lot of time watching from afar and didn't take a lot of photos. I sat way high up on the hill, with the masses, and watched the players tiny on this large field with this amazing view of Boston behind them. Huge puffy white clouds, vivid green grass. The contrast to the content of the text and setting was evident and to some unnerving (like the critic from the Arlington Paper who couldn't quite deal with that juxtaposition) or invigorating (to the cast, and to me).

Before the fencing duel, I went down to the front of the house and sat down amongst a gaggle of little 6-9 year old girls who had abandoned their families to go down right in the very front. I had my camera handy, and they gathered close and whispered little questions. They knew exactly what was going on. They knew one foil was poisoned and were trying to guess which one. "Who has it? I bet it's the red one. But NO! Hamlet has it!"

They were totally making me smile. "Oh no. The king put something in that wine glass and the queen took it! She drank it!" the girls all gasped, and our Gertrude, Zoe, for a moment looked fine as she mopped her son's brow. Laertes swiped Hamlet's back, our Hamlet being Mia that day... and the girls said "he cheated! He did it to guarantee Hamlet would be poisoned!"

I was impressed. They totally knew the story and the score.

Our fencing duel raged on, and Hamlet gets Laertes' sword and swipes him. Laertes confesses, the queen falls, and the girls say "oh no... the queen is dead? So who will be queen now?!"

Hamlet is told he is poisoned, he kills Claudius and dies.

"Now, who is king? Now who is queen?" they asked. We cut out Fortinbras and ended the show with Horatio holding Hamlet and saying "Good night sweet prince..." So I told them what happened after the play ended and they had a lot of questions about how these things would be. What happened to Rosencrantz and Guildenstern? (We basically cut that out of the 90 minute version too, because really... who cares!)

One of the moms talked to some other girls and asked what they thought of the show. "I loved Hamlet! A girl can do ANYTHING!" one exclaimed.

That's right, baby.

MJLee 22 We also performed with the Salem parks and rec department in their summer camp program. The 90 minute version of the play with our Frazier Hamlet as star.

There were three or four boys right up front the whole time, and they'd ask me questions like "why she crazy?" which cracked me up. They hung on every word. We took an intermission as the local food pantry provides lunch to the kids each day. I walked around and asked the kids, "so, do you get it? Do you know what's happening so far?" and we talked about the play, the ghost the uncle usurper, and one said "who cares if the uncle married the queen, doesn't Hamlet get the throne ANYway because he's the king's son???" So we talked about succession, deceit, cheating, and why Hamlet had a good reason to be pissed.

They loved the swordfight, and at the end, they came to me and said "can we go talk to them?" meaning, my actors. "Can we?"

Yes. go talk to them!

They bolted over and were jumping up and down "Aw mannnnnnn! Wicked! You were AMAZING!" Dancing all around them and freaking out.

Our kids then conducted a workshop with the park and rec kids. There was another group from a theatre summer camp at a local private school who brought 14 girls to the show. So they all joined in and our kids did a bunch of warm up exercises, vocal exercises and other games.

MJLee Everyone

All the kids had a blast and humored me long enough to allow a photo of all three groups together. Before they left, three girls from the theatre camp that came to visit thanked me and one of them started crying. "I loved the play, and I loved that workshop. Thank you so much for doing this for us."

You're welcome. You have no idea how happy this makes me. I gave her a huge hug, and asked her not to cry or she'd make me cry. And they went on their way.

I think that even if there were not 1000 people at one of the shows, that if all we did was make that one girl cry, or the one little boy from the Salem parks in the white T-shirt jump up and down with that much joy, honey. We done good.

The Winter's TaleAnd on that note, Geoff and Doug leave in the morning for Scout Camp. I don't know what I'm doing with Geoff AFTER he gets back... so I do need to get that all figured out.

I will share this one photo with you of him from his performance in The Winter's Tale.

He played Clown, the son of the Shepherd who finds Perdita on the beach. He is getting pick pocketed by Autolycus here, played wonderfully by the boy who played our Henry V last year... Jackson.

Geoff is usually rather tactile-averse. He doesn't like to be touched, so to have THIS happen, this to me is amazing. I cannot believe that they got him to go for this, and not run screaming out of the scene. He had such a rough start to camp this year, and it was hard for him and me, and his teachers. But the end result was some comedy that no one will forget. Especially me, his old mum.

On that note, I'm off to check laundry, shirts, bags, etc... and get things ready to get going.

I will try and write more this week now that I have a lull in the action. Thanks for abiding, my friends.

Wednesday, July 01, 2009

Waxing Desperate with Imagination...

So June had one entry. I'm thinking July will have more. At least only because Rebel is running, and I'll have a tour to recap for myself and posterity's sake at the end of the month. I cannot really believe nearly 11 months have gone by since the Romeo and Juliet Tour of last August. The year went fast; and right now it feels like days just rush past with so much to do, and so little time to get things done!

I'm working on the tour again, and have lined up some pretty amazing sites to perform at.

If you are in the greater Boston Area, and you're interested in attending, do let me know. I can point you towards the shows which run from Boston to Arlington to Newburyport and other points between July 17-26.

One that I am truly looking forward to is at George's Island in the Boston Harbor Islands National Parks Service. I had to secure that spot back in January, started talking to them right after Romeo and Juliet wrapped. The location is really cool, and the only request I have to God Himself is that the weather around here improve.

A few months ago I stole one of the students to take pictures of him for press for the NPS, which they ended up not using. And he ended up cast as Hamlet.

Excellent.

We have a male and a female Hamlet, so I have to take the girl's photos on Sunday and put together media and posters and get them out in a really timely fashion.

Jess enlisted two of her classmates from High School into doing Rebel with her. Which is fantastic. They are both unique and interesting guys, and I have been driving them down with us in the morning and back home at night. An hour in the car each way. And they don't shut up. I mean honestly. They talk the whole way. Especially one of them. He is a laugh riot but wears me out. I feel like I need a large bottle of wine when I'm done spending time with him. Hmmmm. Funny, he kind of reminds me of Geoff. ha!

He calls me mamma, and Jess is sister. He is enamored of Russia and WWII and Nazi Germany. He is very intense and opinionated, as many 17 year old boys are. Nearly 17. His birthday is on the tour.


So in mentioning the weather, we've been trapped in some sort of nightmare of a weather system where for nearly 21 days it has rained, been cloudy, been cloudy and rained, thundered, and oh, the sun peeked through but then went away and it rained more. Last Saturday night I had a party for Jess (late birthday/what the heck party) that we had to postpone a week because it was forecasted that it was going to thunder and lightning all day. It just ended up being cloudy and gloomy, we could have had the party but meh.

Lucky for me, the same thing happened and it was just cloudy and gloomy. The rain held off until after 11pm. We did sit in the yard by my brand new fire pit (unused since Saturday because it has done nothing but rain since, and I bet it's all rusted out now. Grrr) and we watched a wall of fog slowly creep south down our street and literally stop at the corner at the end of my driveway.

"Did you see that?" one of the kids asked me. Yup. I sure did. Thank you God for keeping the rain away, and the fog.

Whew. We squeezed in an epic party, where that fire pit raged outside and Guitar Hero raged inside. People came and went between scenes, and we even made hobo pies in the hobo pie makers.

It was a really fun and amazing party. Jess combined her groups of friends, from school and Rebel, and all told it was an amazingly fun mix. There may be a love connection too, but sssshhhhhh, I didn't say that. heh. Hamlet and his mom and little sister were here, and they stayed for the whole shebang. It was so much fun to spend time with Hamlet's mom, I don't get to spend time with too many of the parents from Rebel and I've made a nice friendship with her. So it was an incredibly good time. I'd do it again this weekend if it weren't for the fact that yeah, it's going to rain.


Geoff got off to an incredibly bumpy start at Rebel, and it was heartbreaking for me because he finished off the academic year strong and well behaved, went to camp and immediately reverted back to Stupid Geoff... acting inappropriately and saying inappropriate things.

Right now he's on a day to day basis with a behavior contract in place, and if he messes up, he's gone. And he has to go to Camp Grandma for the rest of the summer. Which, I know he does NOT want to do. Keri was kind enough to not throw him out of town, but has made it clear that sometimes kids don't fit the program and the program does not fit kids. And we may have that kid.

But, we'll see how he does, and daily I pray for him, that he holds it together and gets through the day AND gets something out of the program. Please pray for him if you're the praying type, and for his directors who have to work with him.


This past week a lot of people died. I have had a lot of thoughts about Michael Jackson and Farrah, but am not sure how to articulate them in a way that won't offend a lot of people. So I think I'm going to keep the bulk my thoughts to myself on this one. Suffice to say, I believe we're all to be judged when we're dead. Not by the media or the court of public opinion. And some of you don't believe in the afterlife or God as judge the way I do. But. all I have to say is that it would be interesting to be there to hear what judgment is leveled against either of them, or any of the other major celebs who just died for that matter. And our pastor at Church this past weekend did a big sermon on Grace and Forgiveness, and how we are all deserving of such... so I only wonder what happens next.

Something to think about I guess. If you think about those things.

Saturday, June 20, 2009

Geoff puts first aid training to use on mom's forehead

Yes, I know it has been a month. But there has been nothing really to write about so I've just maintained radio silence instead of babbling nonsense for no reason. The weather has prevented much outside fun from going down, so I've not had a lot to report. Hey! I did dishes! Hey! I folded laundry. Hey! I played Bejeweled Blitz on facebook for 10 straight hours. That is kind of what it's been all about lately.

But, because four of you have emailed me in the last couple days wondering what my deal is, here is the update.

Jess is a Senior.

She is done with 11th grade. She received a couple accommodations and got into the National German Honor Society, which is good for her CV looking forward to college. She took the German SAT language test, and thinks she bombed it because she didn't have the vocabulary. I told her to take it again next year if she wanted to. No worries. Jess has been no-maintenance, no worries. And I'm hoping it stays that way. I am working again on her Shakespeare program for 2009. Tour dates for July for "Hamlet" are falling into place. If you're in the greater Boston Area and want to know where, drop me a line. We were supposed to have a party today for her birthday/end of year fun-ness, but the forecast was for rain. It has rained here every day for like a month, so I listened to the forecast and postponed the party to next weekend. Stupid weather. It is now 11pm and no rain has fallen. Grrr. Fingers crossed for next Saturday to behave weatherwise.

And soon, we start looking at colleges. So that should be interesting.

6th grade end of year ceremonyGeoff has finished 6th grade, finally. We live to tell.

The last couple days were rough simply because he could not WAIT for it to be over....

I thought every day that he would pummel someone, but he didn't. He managed to keep it all together, and did an amazingly good job at the "completion program" held on Thursday.

It rained that day, and they were supposed to have a Field Day outside, but they had a DJ come in and the 6th graders had a dance party, with Geoff dancing like a mad man in the middle of everything. You will notice here that Geoff didn't use his notecard to do his part, because he is a consumate professional. You will also notice he looks ridiculous with a Hawaiian shirt on and a German Youth Soccer scarf on. He loves that scarf, and he wears it as often as he can. I asked him to please not wear it AT the presentation, but he kept it on.

One mom approached me after and said that it made her think of Harry Potter and the school scarves from the first 2 movies. She had such a big smile on her face, that I couldn't feel that he looked like an idiot if he brought that much happy to someone.

I wish I had stayed to watch him dance.

But I did meet the girl that I think he has a crush on, and she is sweet and lovely. And I left the school feeling relieved that elementary school was done. Over. Thank You, God. It should be bittersweet, not a sigh of relief. But I'm looking forward to 7th grade like you would not believe.

Saco River Canoeing TripWe took the Boy Scout troop on a canoe trip.

Last year Doug went alone with Geoff and they ended up pitching their canoe in some rapids, and it rained like a Mofo and some of the kids were borderline hypothermic.

This year, Doug wanted me to come, and we left Jess alone for the first time at home ever... which worried me somewhat because when I turned 17 my parents left me alone and that was the night of "Tenderize the Night" with Patti and Jenssie and a LOT of beer. Cough. Anyway. I had nothing to worry about from Jess, she went to Boston to see They Might Be Giants (Jealous!) and didn't do anything wrong or bad. Whew.

I really needed to go, because since becoming Troop Chaplain I have not done anything for the Troop.

The Saturday portion of the trip was all canoeing, and we had a blast. I had taken a bunch of online training courses from the BSA for safe water activitis and was feeling great. At the end of the trip, I supervised the Troop in some crazy water swimming action due to some heavy rain and fast currents in the water. I made them all wear PFDs, and they didn't bitch at me. I had a great time with the boys, and I think I'm crazy about all of them.

Camping with the Boy Scouts is fun too, because they do all the work. I didn't have to cook or lift a finger. It was BEAUTIFUL.

Saco River Canoeing TripHere is Geoff and his canoemate Michael.

Geoff and Michael are classmates, and 3 years ago I never would have imagined them being friends.

Michael is an AMAZING person. Patient, kind, understanding, like no one I've ever met. He and his brother Matt "get" Geoff. They LIKE him. They are tolerant of him, and help him when he needs help. I think I'm in love with them.

Michael and Geoff shared a canoe, and it was a riot because Geoff didn't GET how it worked to use a canoe. Geoff was in back, and whatever side Michael rowed on, Geoff did. Which causes the canoe to kind or go in a circle? ish? Kinda?

After lunch, I told Michael to ride in back, Geoff in front, and Michael would yell out to Geoff what side to row on. It worked out much better.

Most boys would have crapped their pants over dealing with Geoff on this day. Michael was all laid back. It frustrated him, but he didn't lose it. And God Bless Him for that. Always.

They love when Geoff tells stories. They get him going, and he makes up these tales that can't be really outlined here. But Michael and Matt just love it.

As their Troop Chaplain, I had a whole thing prepared for Sunday Morning. But I didn't get to do it. It started raining at about 11pm, and by the time we got up it was a sheer downpour. We made breakfast and broke camp. I couched my sermon, which I wrote especially for the canoe weekend, and will save it for another day.

On Monday, I took my car to the shop. When we were camping, we'd damaged the front bumper at the parking area, so I wanted them to pop it back in. They found that my back brakes were shot to shit, and I needed an oil change and yadda yadda, so they gave me a loaner car. I left the car there and took off in their 2009 Forrester.

It is taller than an Outback.

I went to pick Geoff up at school because he and I both had physicals, and after getting him I went out to the car and WHIPPED open the car door.

injuryAnd smacked myself in the face with the door. Holy Shit did I hurt myself.

Geoff took this photo of me when we got home. I had blood running down my face and arm as we headed back to the house on an unanticipated side trip.

He just finished his First Aid badge for Boy Scouts, so I quizzed him. The gash over my eye was bleeding like a mofo. He told me to apply pressure and cold to it. It would stop bleeding. He prepared a sterile wash for me, and went and got bandages for me, and neosporin.

"It hurts." I told him. "I would like to take something for the pain."

"You can't have aspirin," he told me, "it makes your blood run faster." So he got me some Ibuprofen. I smiled. He passed his First Aid Badge test, and here he was a week later doing actual First Aid on mom's face.

We went to our physicals and my doctor, who has been my doctor since before Doug and I got married, heck... he was the school doctor at my college so I can say he has been my doctor since 1988 really... he laughed at me. yeah. I made my doctor laugh.

It is healing nicely. Thank you.

Nothing else really to tell. Just planning the Shakespeare tour and trying to deal with the weather. That's about it. All of the canoe photos are here, and let it be said that I had a blast, with or without Boy Scouts, and I would like to go back tomorrow if I could.

Thursday, May 14, 2009

One day we will all be at the farmhouse table, she hopes

"Does it take a death to learn what life is worth?"
-Jackson Browne

We're back from our journey to the Beaver Valley. It was an interesting time, with interesting experiences, and I'm not sure what happens next. A lot of things went through my mind and heart and I'm still processing a lot of it. Nothing bad, just deep thoughts. All told, I don't think I've ever been to a wake where there was more laughter and joking and happiness. And that is a good thing.

050709 10We left Wednesday night after dropping the dogs at the kennel and made it across the NY state line into Pennsylvania (Matamoras, to be exact).

It was pouring rain, we were hydroplaning and trucks were just spraying us with road crap and water and it just got overwhelming. So we stopped for the night. A nice slow morning and breakfast, we knew we were not in a huge hurry to get out there and we took our time. We stopped at a waterfall in the Poconos and really enjoyed the sites. After the horrible rain the days prior, the waterfall was raging and it was well worth the stop.

The hotel was welcoming and comfortable. We had dinner with Doug's parents and settled in. A quick check of Facebook revealed that my friend Mark was looking to possibly get together with us at some point. We crashed out, and made arrangements to get together with Mark and the fam the following morning with the (seriously) only free time were going to have for the weekend.

Mark and the Bionicle His house had burned down last summer and he and his wife bought a great big huge beautiful old house in downtown Beaver Falls and he wanted us to see it.

We were more than happy to come by and check it out. We had a wonderful visit, filled with college discussion (ours and Jess' upcoming choices) and lots of lovin' from the dog.

We ran back to the hotel and got ready for visiting hours. A little stressed and slightly late. Doug's mom told us were were supposed to be there at 2:30 for the 3pm start, and we got in the car at 2:45. I felt bad, but no one said anything or noticed so ... okay. Visiting hours were painfully long. Five hours. I spent a good amount of time watching my niece and nephew, ages 7 and 4, and some other family kidlins who were obliviously not interested in spending time next to the coffin the visiting room.

As always, I had my camera and took scads of pictures of the kids. I figured when are all four of cousinsthem going to be together and dressed well again other than another funeral.

One of the highlights for me was the time I spent chatting with Doug's great aunt Dove. She has been sick for several years, and here her sister goes before her, suddenly and unexpectedly. She told me she was shocked and knows that she won't be around much longer.

But she's sharp as a tack and loves to talk, doesn't have a hard time hearing even in a noisy room, and is very funny. I asked if Dove was her real name and she shook her head and made a face. "Doris. Which is horrible. Dove is so much nicer. They started calling me that when I was a baby, and it just stuck around."

So she's Dove.

She asked about our house, what the kids like to do, what I like to do. I've only met her once or twice since I discovered Doug in 1986... and she has a great memory of all kinds of things. She remembered one year when we came to the family reunion. The only year we've come to the family reunion. Geoff was 18 months old. "He's such a big gentleman now. Look at him," Dove said to me as we stood next to her sister's body.

"You need to come back more often. I need to get to know you better." She said that to me and it broke my heart. She meant it. She honestly liked talking to me about life and stuff, and we had a few good laughs, especially when I agreed with her not liking her name due to the fact I have a middle name I'm not at all fond of.

Visiting hours ended and we retired with pizza and Doug's sister and niece to our hotel room. Geoff swam for a while and Elyse watched him. We chatted until 11 or so and eventually got the room cleared out of guests and got to bed.


Morning came too soon. We managed to get ready on time and get over to the funeral home.

Dove told me that she didn't know if this was real or not, that sometimes she wakes up in the night and asks herself if the events of the day prior were a dream or reality, and she found herself doing that late at night after going to bed.

I told her I have the same problem sometimes and I was glad to know someone else does too. But this is real, and we held hands and just spent time.

The service for the funeral was very, very short. I felt like there was everything missing. It was held at the funeral home, not at a church, and the pastor was someone not connected to the family that I know of, which confused me. I'm including this photo that I took three years ago next week, it came to my mind as the pastor did his service.

Kitchen Morning 610amHe did a whole big thing about how Grandma was so family oriented, and how she loved being home. She often talked about her mom's house, and the farm house kitchen table.

There were 12 kids, 11 of which survived into adulthood (the first one died in infancy. A lot of people would not have 11 more kids after losing their first born, but this was the 1920s or so, and yeah, people did that...).

It was a place to talk, a place to gather, a place to wind down at the end of the day. So now, she's gone "home," and the pastor painted a picture of a sunny kitchen dining area with a big table, spread with good food and drink. Pappy and her son John who passed two years ago are first to greet her. Her mom and dad, and her brothers and sisters who had gone before her, each rise to greet her in love.

He said they were enjoying a good chat, and Mary walks into the room. They rise to greet her, hug her, kiss her and welcome her.

And that was where I lost it.

Imagining that sort of homecoming, that sort of welcome. Like coming home from college for Thanksgiving and a five hour trip took you twelve freaking hours. Walking in the door, finding your family around that table, talking politics or current events or reminiscing about things that had gone by and they rise to meet you... Or a soldier, returning from service with the duffel bag over his shoulder, stepping in and setting that burden down and getting that cup of coffee handed to him after all the hugs.

That sort of image of welcoming home just filled me with sadness and joy all at the same moment. I realized I won't be walking into her home ever again and getting that greeting from her. I wouldn't have anyway since she had moved into assisted living. But I have walked in on that kind of scene and been made welcome. Welcomed home. Welcomed as a part of her family.

The pastor kind of ruined it for me by taking this image a step further and imagining that the family parted and at the head of the table sat Jesus Himself, holding her baby brother that she never got to meet.

Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not saying Jesus won't be welcoming saints who come into his kingdom of heaven but I don't know that he's hanging out at the farm house kitchen table holdin' babies. I think Jesus meets us at the door, gives us that big hug and points the way in to where the family is. He can't be at EVERYone's farm house kitchen table waiting for them, you know? And we can hang out with him individually or in groups... but that farm house kitchen table, that first moment and meeting? Not really sure he wants in on that scene. What do you think?

This image stuck with me and it made me think of my photo of our kitchen, a place I'm sure she would love.

She is home, welcomed by those who wait. Pappy went not quite 10 years ago (I can't believe it has been that long) and was the first to hug and kiss her. She was so sad for so long after John's passing, and I know she is joyful to be reunited with him ... And whether or not Jesus was sitting there with a nice cuppa or not is not relevant. She's there. And they await the next one to join.

Not sure if it will be Dove or another one of the remaining five siblings, but someone will pass.

They will gather again and ask "is this real? Am I dreaming this?" like Dove did, holding my hand and looking at me with big, loving eyes.

Anyway. Tito, hand me a tissue. I'm crying again just thinking on it.


We had a family meal at a local restaurant, and went back to the hotel to chill. Geoff had a long swim, met three young brothers at the pool and all four of them together did cannonballs and cheered one another. It was totally Boy Time, and it was refreshing. He needed that after being so well behaved for so many hours.

After the other boys left, Geoff and I were swimming and he said "I'm kind of sad that the service was so short. I thought people would get up and share what they thought about Grandma."

I told him that I was also surprised. All told, the service was about 15 minutes long. I asked him to go ahead and tell me what he would have said if he had been given the opportunity to stand and eulogize her. I asked if he'd written her a poem or song yet. He said he hadn't. He told me that he would have said that he loved her, and that she was always so nice to him. I don't think he honestly could say anything more than that, he didn't get to spend a lot of time with her. Whenever we came out we'd visit, of course, but he didn't get to have a close relationship with her. But his assessment is spot on. She did love him, and she was always kind to him.

Saturday night we went out with Doug's parents to an Italian restaurant. Ate too much and slept well. The following day we went out to Ohio to see Doug's other grandmother for Mother's Day. I was worried about "abandoning" Doug's mom on Mother's Day but she was relieved to have some time alone to herself. She doesn't get along with her mother in law, so she didn't accompany us to Ohio.

The FamilyDoug's dad took us to East Carmel to his Grandparents' gravesite. We then went to Grandma's new place at her assisted living home. She was in great spirits, and we got there an hour later than we'd anticipated and she said she was afraid we weren't going to come.

Now there, Middie. How would we not come to you?

Diane and J were there too with the kiddies and we had a lot of fun visiting. Doug's aunt came up from Virginia, and it was a regular Down Home family reunion. Missing only Doug's mom and Doug's cousin. So this photo is as complete a full Gary's bunch of the family photo as we're ever going to get.

It was a good long visit and the ride home was blocked by a car accident right outside Doug's uncle's house, two doors down from Doug's parents' house. We had to drive all over hell and Western Pennsylvania to get to the driveway of the house. And then, of course, we had to go find out all the details of the accident. So by the time we went out to dinner that night at it was about 9pm.

Geoff ended the visit to Western PA wonderfully with probably what has to be the funniest verbal mistake ever. He read from the menu out loud when ordering and said "Classic Black Anus Burger," instead of Angus Burger.

Damn if Doug and I didn't laugh ourselves into near heart failure. Geoff didn't flip out at his mistake and our laughter, but weathered it well. I don't think he thinks it is funny, but a year ago he would have flipped the table over in the restaurant screaming at all of us to stop laughing at him. And it is good ammo for us too, because he busted on me for making a verbal gaffe and Jess said "oh, so do YOU ever misspeak, Mr. Black Anus Burger??? Hmmm???" It will be used again and again on him I am sure.

We packed up Monday morning and headed home, getting back here with moments to spare to pick up the dogs. They were so happy to see us, and we them. It was good to be home.

I am thinking we may be back out there in the fall to visit University of Pittsburgh. It's on Jess' short list of schools, and so we may make another trip there. I'm hoping that we don't need to make one for another funeral soon. It does feel like we just go out there anymore for weddings and funerals. And that's sad. I want to see Dove again, just to chat and laugh and visit, at least one more time.